I know a good number of men who are extremely disgusted by homosexuality. They will refuse to wear certain ‘gay’ colours and they will be quick to dish out punchesThey are horrified by the thought of two guys in love or in bed yet they never take lesbianism seriously. It’s almost like they don’t even see it as something worth talking about. As far as they are concerned, Lesbians are just been silly. They have never had real men. They probably have strains of mental illness running in their families. Once, I heard a dude say lesbians need a good “flogging”. And by flogging, he meant rape.
Rape is not a thing to be trifled with. I have since deleted him from the wall of my life.
Yesterday I saw that a friend had come out on Facebook. It shocked me to the bone. I kept saying “I can’t believe it” over and over. I was winded and I wasn’t even walking. I felt like someone had bodyslammed me and I kept wondering if I was the only one who hadn’t known.
Why do I care that I hadn’t known?
Thank God for blogosphere, can’t imagine the quality of eyerolls I would get if I was having this talk with an actual human being.
It’s not like we were ever best buddies, making midnight calls and arm wrestling but we have shared smokes, I’ve wrangled an old trusty lighter of his and now it sits in lucky wrap in a lucky box. Now I’m peeling yam and nicking my finger while mentally hunting for signs of his sexual preferences I must have missed.
Why does it even matter to me?
Guess I’m not as on-the-fence as I thought. I was shocked by the seriousness with which Nigerian lawmakers went about turning the anti-gay bill into law.
It was amazing. The seriousness, the conviction they displayed and the haste. Three characteristics that are hardly, if ever, linked to Nigerian lawmakers. I only wish they could display such diligence in the case of child brides. A cruelty that is just as terrible as the recruitment of child soldiers. It makes me wonder what female lawmakers, so-called first ladies and female activists are doing in Nigeria. They seem to have become sitting ducks in a culture that has no respect for women and their role in society. Sitting on the fence can be dangerous and it’s costing millions their lives every year. Hate too.
Aside from the strangeness of having homosexuality acknowledged, and the deep rooted belief that it is a sexual perversion, many Nigerians are scared that the combination of a corrupt police force and hate borne out of ignorance will turn this anti-gay law business into a rubbish heap of finger pointing and politics.
Yup. Looks like they have cause to be scared.
Come on, it’s the same police force that shoots randomly at public transport buses and boys playing in the streets. Are they going to be educated? Will they be made to understand why this is even a crime? Lawmakers must realise that law is a big deal and that it must come with education to ease it’s way. We have a judicial system in place and yet people still get burned for stealing in NIgerian cities.
Ladies are stripped naked and beaten within an inch of their lives for stealing smart phones.
For this anti-gay law passed, there were a thousand other laws that could have been passed that would make every Nigerian sleep with both eyes closed.
#childnotbride was shot down mercilessly in 2014 but the campaign to stop old perverts from buying children and ruining their lives in the name of marriage will continue this year and I hope that lawmakers will show the same diligence that was shown as regards the anti-gay law in Nigeria.